As a big girl, I’ve perfected hating myself and my body. The constant judgement from myself and others has become the norm. It’s sad but true. The self hate is on a constant highlight reel through my brain.

But when does it stop? How do we train our brains to love ourselves? I’m honestly curious because I have no. freaking. clue. I’m losing weight, I’m exercising daily, I’m sticking to my calories goals. But I still have this loop of self-doubt in my brain. I still sit at night thinking about what I could have done differently or how I could have been better (and often the answer is that I did perfectly good that day).

When I’m hungry, I feel great. I feel like I’m doing what I should be doing – starving myself. When I’m satisfied after a meal – even if it was a great, healthful meal – I feel guilt.

When does this go away? What can we do to train our brains to think positively instead of judgmentally and negatively? Let’s brainstorm!